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Memories of Mommy in the Cruel April Snow

Dr. Hettie V. Williams
6 min readMay 9, 2020

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By Hettie V. Williams

Mom at age 20 in 1963

I have known unimaginable grief in the last few weeks having lost three family members in less than two months (including both parents and one of my Aunts); but, the death of my Mom Gloria, on April 8 of this year, is the greatest loss I have ever experienced. Mom died after a short but valiant battle with a rare form of endometrial cancer. She was always a fighter but this diabolical disease won in the end. Mommy was my best friend, confidant, and closest advisor. I spoke to her nearly every day of my 17,983 days on this planet — or at least since the day that I came to know language and able to form sentences. My heart has exploded into a million shards of glass. Don’t tell me “at least she lived a full life” or that she was “older.” Seventy-six is too young to die. This essay is my attempt to construct a portrait of her complete humanity while muddling through memories and sadness.

My Mom was a larger than life figure in my world and, admittedly, I idealized her and placed her on a pedestal. She was a smart, feisty, empowered woman and an arresting beauty.

Mom in 1964 in her engagement photo

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Dr. Hettie V. Williams
Dr. Hettie V. Williams

Written by Dr. Hettie V. Williams

Hettie V. Williams is currently an Associate Professor of African American History at Monmouth University. She is the author/editor of five books.

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